Discussing the Age Gap

Amanda Bussman
6 min readDec 11, 2023
Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash

Less than a month before my fourth birthday I became an aunt.

For many of the children I attended school with, this was incomprehensible. You can’t be an aunt if you’re a child. Children don’t understand that concept. They figured he was my cousin or my brother.

My oldest nephew and I didn’t get along when I was little.

I’m pretty sure I hated him.

To understand any of this, explaining a little bit of my background is necessary. It’s a lot simpler than you might think.

My hope with this piece is to help the family's black sheep to know they aren’t alone. That family is difficult. Sometimes they aren’t always the people you feel the most comfortable with.

Disclaimer Before We Begin

My story is unique to me.

Not all age gaps with siblings work out horrendously. In my case, my parents were very different people than they were when they had my siblings. I had a different relationship with them.

When it comes to my sisters and I, the gap between us doesn’t work. We are very different people.

For me, this is something that has had a negative impact.

I know, all siblings fight. There will always be a little bit of strife. My story remains…

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Amanda Bussman
Amanda Bussman

Written by Amanda Bussman

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